The world is full of surprises, I bet we don't get to witness them all
It's difficult to decide whether it is morally correct to gossip or not. On the one hand if you don't tell anyone except the secluded amount of people you do share your info with then no one should get hurt. The thing is though that rumours and false claims usually immerge and that makes it a whole lot more complicated.
In principle you're aloud to say anything to anyone, and it's only better if you don't say something mean to someone's face but instead just behind their backs. I know this is a feely subject so at least agree to disagree and hear me out. Bullying happens because people say mean things TO those said people. But gossiping can be like a calming mechanism, in which you don't have to be mean but just complain to relieve your own problems or stressful situations.
Some people reading this would say: "better say nothing than gossiping ". But that's where point three comes in to rescue my argumentation. Freedom of speech, need i say more (well yes probably, it is a blog after all)? In democracy's you have the privilege of having an opinions about everything, and since it's not punishable to say something "interesting" about another one's secrets or habits (this doesn't HAVE to be mean). You might as well just talk about it, but just not to the person you are talking about.
Today I experienced some secrets of my own, and it's fun and intriguing, and some people just love them. So why disapprove of something that has the potential of being harmless.
Sorry to disagree - but bullying also happens because people "gang up" and talk behind someone's back about them - instead of connecting and talking to a person - and maybe getting to know them? Gossip is almost always hurtful. (my personal opinion.) If you want to talk about someone, at least talk without any identifying info. Just sayin...
ReplyDeleteBut I would prefer if people just told me the truth, instead of gossiping or not telling anything at all. Although this may hurt, there is one thing worse than people hurting you: people not telling you the truth. You might feel like gossiping or not telling anything at all are the best ways not to hurt. But when someone comes up with an other pretext every time, even if it is because they don't want to hurt you, it makes you feel awful!
ReplyDeleteIt's a little bit like the story of the man and the street light. You don't know when to trust or when to question, so you start to question everything, even when he's right. And a friendship in which you question everything: trust me, that's awful!
Dear unepetitpeut,
DeleteI definitely agree with you! the truth should always prevail,
I was just trying to see the good side of something that i agree is morally incorrect.
I appreciate your comment